Archive for April, 2010


Call for stories of NLP

Time for some annecdotal research.

We’re interested in sharing in your joy/sorrow/confusion. Please share your good/bad/ugly experiences in applying NLP in your business, personal relationships, or anywhere else you have used something you’ve read/heard/watched. (Please refrain from telling other people’s stories unless you were directly involved on the receiving end or observed it first hand.)

All stories welcome from oneliners to the novellas. As you feel lead to share more you can include your background in NLP (voracious reader, client, courses taken, influential trainers, etc), and more context of the situation. A quick way to share context is to set up what the situation was leading into your use of your particular ”magic NLP dust”, your immediate observations upon your ”sprinkling”, and observations on that situation in later interactions. Or before, after & after-the-after as @RayEdwards so eloquently puts it.

Please share stories in the comments below, @WayneBuckhanan on twitter , WayneBuckhanan on facebook , or WayneBuckhanan @ gmail. Please note whether you’d prefer to stay anonymous or be quoted.

Thanks in advance for sharing your expertise — everyone is an expert at being themselves!

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Weekend Thought Food: Talent & Insecurity, Inspiration & Experiments

This week has been an odd confluence of disparate ideas from my Facebook, Twitter, and Youtube friends all leading in the same direction. Here is summary and pointers. The full story and a cool bonus (think MnM) is going out to my email subscribers tomorrow night.


Had a great exchange with my friend Matt Harris sparked by his comment “talent so often gets in the way of success.” The whole scoop is in the email. Until then check out Matt’s blog post about it and follow @MeridianMogul on Twitter.


Thanks to my friend Nicola Cairncross, author of The Money Gym, for this post “Insecurity Doesn’t Pay the Bills” by Dave Navarro as shared via her new @NicolaCairnX Twitter account.


My new friend Gail Lynne Goodwin added to the theme with a tweet “Do you hold back your dreams wondering “what will people think”? Who cares! It’s your dream, it’s your life- go live it#IMT
Check out the inspirational quotes she has been collecting first hand and follow @InspireMeToday on Twitter.


My 5 minutes x 30 days post started the public accountability on my 30 day experiment around my kettlebell throwing. Scott Young calls them “30 day trials” but I much prefer the kinesthetics of “30 day experiment” — much more mad scientist!
The last 3 days I’ve hit my momentum goal with a few (1-3) clean and presses. Not what most would consider spectacular, but they are exactly fulfilling the habit forming part of this MnM goal.

So, that’s pretty much been my week online (taken in quick breaks between all of the usual PhD and family stuff). Check out some links, do something with them, and share your results below.

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Well Formed Destinations and Well Formed Routes

Quickly, what is your goal for April?

For many that is an odd question. ”What do you mean? Goals for April? I don’t have any goals for today, let alone this month.” If that’s you I’ll be a tough mentor: either go use a goal setting guide or wallow somewhere else because this post/blog/universe isn’t going to help you until you’ve got some goal in mind.

For those who are still reading, is that goal talking about where you’re going or what you’re doing along the way? This is the difference between an outcome and a process goal.

Either one will be much more likely to occur if it follows the NLP criteria for a well formed outcome: positively stated, individually driven, sensory based, and ecological.

Is your goal focused on what you do want or what you don’t want? What you want to have or what you want to no longer have?

Does your goal depend upon the actions that you take or is it in the hands of other people or circumstances?

Do you know what it will look like when you reach your goal? What will you hear? What sensations do you feel? Smells? Tastes? Or will you ”just know”?

What unintended consequences will reaching your goal have? Who else will be impacted? What things will or won’t happen because of you reaching your goal?

All of these ”criteria for well formed outcomes” also apply to process goals. Are you focused on what you will be doing as you move forward? Did you change an outcome to a process goal so you could focus on what is in your control? Do you know what maintaining your process goals will look/sound/feel/taste/smell like? Are the unintended consequences of the way you’re doing things acceptable for everyone?

Today’s mission is to double check your 30 day experiment goals against these four criteria. If you need to change an outcome to a process goal then make those adjustments. Now share your outcome or process goal for the month below for feedback, support, and public accountability. (Yes, that means you too Sarah!)

FYI: I maintained my momentum with two aborted Turkish get-ups (only ‘bell on hand was too big!), 10 swings with good form, and a solid snatch for good measure.

Now go do your something and report back!

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